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Sunday, April 4, 2010

Overcoming MicroCommunity Butch horizontal hostility, response to Dirt

I see just what kind of an ally you are Dirt. The kind that can't be trusted....sadly...and that's hurtful. I've NEVER used a Femme as a 'punching bag', but I DO affirm being primarily Butch on Butch. It is YOU who started the whole sordid nastiness with your Capital B Butch Bullshit, that ONLY a Butch EXCLUSIVELY into Femmes can claim the word 'Butch'!

I countered that, and will continue to counter that. I've done ALL flavors of womyn, and the strongest preference I have is exclusively LESBIAN women...I've had longterm relationships with Femmes and with Butches, and affairs/one night stands whathaveyou with all manner of different kinds of women, lesbian and bisexual. I've come to different conclusions with that.

And NEVER have I been put down more for enjoying Butches than by other Butches, the kind like you who are exclusively into Femmes. Is this your OWN internalized lesbophobia?? There are MANY Butches who like both flavors, both Butches, Femmes and all the rest. They are as much of a Butch as you are. They have NO INTENTION to transition, they ARE NOT 'Tweeners', or all the things you attribute to any Butch who doesn't have the same Femme worshipping behavior you have. Because they too honor and LOVE and LUST after other Butches. And often they have to be more secret about it, whereas they can brag about the Femmes they've been with.

MANY Butches are trying to hold onto their Butch identities, and I don't want to see my sister Butch loving Butches, or Butches who love and lust after BOTH Butches and Femmes feel 'less than' or that they're 'not really Butch' because they don't follow your lockstep or that of B/F.com or any other straitjacket lesbian commmunity that YOU YOURSELF rail against for not accepting Butch/Femme lesbians.

I don't want them to be convinced that maybe they're 'into dudes' cuz they like other Butches, or are dudes, or that FTMs and Butches are the same, or for that matter, maybe even gay men are then an option....and on and on with the insanity, the SAME TYPE of insanity that you claim that B/F lesbians suffered under, the same type that Butch on Butch lesbians HAVE ALSO suffered under often at the hands of Butch/Femme Lesbians but can NEVER speak about.

That's the REAL issue, if you want to take me to task. Not that I should 'worship femmes' like you do. I know what I like, what I prefer, I've been out for a darned long time....and I know what floats my boat, whether you approve or not, or give your Capital B stamp on it.....

I worship ALL STRONG DYKEAMAZONS Butch or Femme for taking up their space, their power, their sexuality, and for making it into a different world because of their REALTIME WORK and presence. Not all the microcommunities one must jump thru hoops for to belong...


  1. I've been seeing a lot of Butches being shunned for liking other Butches and I still have yet to figure out why. What is so bad about a Butch liking another Butch or a Femme liking another Femme? I've never looked at the terms Butch and Femme to signify both who you are and who you like. To me, the IDs of Butch and Femme are about yourself, not who you love and I think this is part of the confusion. Some people take these IDs to signify their orientation instead of themselves while others think of it as self Identification or both.

    All that aside, reading your blog inspired me to start blogging. So I started it up and began blogging. I'm not nearly as well spoken as other Bloggers and don't type page long posts, but I feel I get my points across. Thanks for the inspiration!