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Thursday, April 22, 2010

Part Two of Dyke to Dyke Sex/Relations preferred

8.FeistyAmazon said,
March 6, 2010 at 10:13 pm

Quit wasting our time, and accusing us of ‘biphobia’ because we don’t or won’t date them for all the reasons all of you have listed above. Let them also date the MTF’s, FTM’s and the rest of the queer and hetero world, and leave us Lesbians/Dykes ALONE! We KNOW the difference in energy with another bio-female Dyke, the mirror, the difference, celebrating both, and our womonly bodies, knowing that we both love and lust over the same thing, while enjoying each other’s bodies, we also appreciate each other’s minds and spirits. It’s not “It doesn’t matter what the bodies are like, it’s the soul behind it” or some such claptrap I constantly hear from bisexual/pansexua/queer women, it DOES INDEED matter to me! “No penis between us friends.” like Alixx Dobkin used to say! And all that goes with it…..

Give me Dyke to Dyke anyday! It’s a spiritual thing for me, as well as sexual, in fact, to me the two are One..I worship the Sacred Female from the Sexual to the Spiritual, AND ON EVERY LEVEL INBETWEEN, emotional, mental, romantic, intellectual, psychic as well. Can a bisexual woman claim that? NOT! Only another Lesbian/Dyke can.
-In Sisterhood,

On Why I Strongly Prefer to Have Sexual Relationships/Encounters with Dykes only from 'More Than One Way to be a Lesbian' from LesbianFeminist

This is my response:

I like all kinds of Dykes, every kind…well, I do have my preferences, but at least I know another Dyke(whose out loud and proud) will completely understand my sexuality in a way a bisexual woman cannot. She will always be holding back on some level, emotionally, mentally, spiritually. If she is also sexual with men, I don’t want whatever beautiful Lesbian energy I share with her or put into her, to then go directly to men, or for her to talk about our most intimate experiences with some dude..then I feel psychically ripped off. I’ve had my share of bisexual women, and even though all the sexacts may be the same, the magic of those acts are not…cuz only another Dyke ‘gets’ me. She is willing to be in the trenches with me when push comes to shove. She’s not likely to flirt with a dude, or give a dude energy. A bisexual woman very likely would. Another Dyke knows what daily Dyke oppression is like, from hetero males, to straight women who fear us…a bisexual walks between the two worlds. She can marry her man, while still fucking women….for the most part, with few exceptions and few states, and some countries, we cannot, or even if we do, our marriages won’t be well recognized and heap us with the privileges heteros and even bisexuals take for granted. Also, she can go back into the hetero world with all it’s privileges and be legitimate, or seen as legitimate and keep her bisexuality on the ‘downlow’. Less than. Second fiddle. Us Dykes don’t have that luxury, no matter which corner of the Dyke communities we come from . We’re still pariahs. She can bail and go back to hetero privilege by taking up with a man, or even single expressing desire for a dude, when the going gets rough.

So, yes, I agree with most of your reasoning, and I have my own, with my long experience as an out Dyke(29 years).
-In Sisterhood,

Sunday, April 4, 2010

Overcoming MicroCommunity Butch horizontal hostility, response to Dirt

I see just what kind of an ally you are Dirt. The kind that can't be trusted....sadly...and that's hurtful. I've NEVER used a Femme as a 'punching bag', but I DO affirm being primarily Butch on Butch. It is YOU who started the whole sordid nastiness with your Capital B Butch Bullshit, that ONLY a Butch EXCLUSIVELY into Femmes can claim the word 'Butch'!

I countered that, and will continue to counter that. I've done ALL flavors of womyn, and the strongest preference I have is exclusively LESBIAN women...I've had longterm relationships with Femmes and with Butches, and affairs/one night stands whathaveyou with all manner of different kinds of women, lesbian and bisexual. I've come to different conclusions with that.

And NEVER have I been put down more for enjoying Butches than by other Butches, the kind like you who are exclusively into Femmes. Is this your OWN internalized lesbophobia?? There are MANY Butches who like both flavors, both Butches, Femmes and all the rest. They are as much of a Butch as you are. They have NO INTENTION to transition, they ARE NOT 'Tweeners', or all the things you attribute to any Butch who doesn't have the same Femme worshipping behavior you have. Because they too honor and LOVE and LUST after other Butches. And often they have to be more secret about it, whereas they can brag about the Femmes they've been with.

MANY Butches are trying to hold onto their Butch identities, and I don't want to see my sister Butch loving Butches, or Butches who love and lust after BOTH Butches and Femmes feel 'less than' or that they're 'not really Butch' because they don't follow your lockstep or that of B/F.com or any other straitjacket lesbian commmunity that YOU YOURSELF rail against for not accepting Butch/Femme lesbians.

I don't want them to be convinced that maybe they're 'into dudes' cuz they like other Butches, or are dudes, or that FTMs and Butches are the same, or for that matter, maybe even gay men are then an option....and on and on with the insanity, the SAME TYPE of insanity that you claim that B/F lesbians suffered under, the same type that Butch on Butch lesbians HAVE ALSO suffered under often at the hands of Butch/Femme Lesbians but can NEVER speak about.

That's the REAL issue, if you want to take me to task. Not that I should 'worship femmes' like you do. I know what I like, what I prefer, I've been out for a darned long time....and I know what floats my boat, whether you approve or not, or give your Capital B stamp on it.....

I worship ALL STRONG DYKEAMAZONS Butch or Femme for taking up their space, their power, their sexuality, and for making it into a different world because of their REALTIME WORK and presence. Not all the microcommunities one must jump thru hoops for to belong...