http://mobile.nytimes.com/blogs/parenting/2016/01/17/a-daughter-too-kind-for-her-own-good/?smid=fb-nytimes&smtyp=cur&_r=0&referer=http://m.facebook.com/ Girls are taught to take care of everyone else's feelings..anything less is "being selfish". This takes away Female agency, to have backbone, inner strength and tge ability to withstand and stand up to another's wrath or displeasure. It teaches girls to be doornats and get walked all over...setting them up for emotional and physical abuse or the very least being taken advantage of and used..even by so called friends. To have no boundaries because that is not "kind"..so girls growing up to be women have the dis-ease of codependence. Not doing anything unless another approves or not knowing where they end(boundaries) and another begins..and that they HAVE A RIGHT to defend those boundaries DESPITE another's reaction.
Boys are not taught to be "kind" but rather competitive, hard, nonemotional, and not soft or vulnerable which they are taught is "girly". So of course the "kind" one will be the perfect prey for the hard, unfeeling or divorced from their feelings competitive males...
True kindness includes kindness to one's true Self and being able to set boundaries and HAVE THEM RESPECTED and have one's own needs met as well.
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