Queering the Great Rite Workshop at Pantheacon

I was disturbed by how she asked all of us our 'genders' or 'sexes' but NOT our identifications, and in that moment I began to see how it's all in the framing. How one frames the question, what choices another gives, how one person limits another by not speaking the words that acknowledge a multitude of existences, how one follows a party line, whether it be religious/spiritual, social, political, sexual or otherwise.

I felt hemmed in by her preconceptions. For her, there was ONE WAY to use the Chalice and the Blade, and I will say that I have never participated in a 'Fucking the Cup' ritual, as a Lesbian Separatist Dianic friend of mine whose been around in the Pagan community says...it always seemed rather distasteful to me, and entirely heterosexist. Nor was an altar cloth set out, candles, or even a meditation on imagining our immense diversity of experiences as Lesbian/Gay/Queer folks, and how we combine our Sexuality and Spirituality together in a Sacred Way.