I’ve been thinking about this.... There are many human ways to love women. But the name and the way that I claim is Lesbian. None of the other words are right for me, though we probably share Dyke. While as a young woman who did not know what Lesbianism was, I tried to be with men but it never worked. I have been with women for more than 40 years. And I only am attracted to and love women born women romantically. And the word for that is Lesbia. Not bisexual. Not queer. Not poly or pan sexual Or any other academic titles people go by these days. Lesbian.
And for me that has nothing to do with gender. It has to do with biological- XX - chromosome sex.
While gender expression might be something to play with, For example the many decades of Butch/Femme energy and herstory in lesbian community— For me that’s all just a subset of the wbw loving wbw community, which is Lesbian.
It is something narrow and specific. For me and for other women, though I hear you not for everybody. Lesbian is a female- XX- homosexual. That’s me.
When this word is used for other configurations of humans loving humans then there is no word left for me. I disappear. There is no way to define who and what I am and how I love. Or how my sisters love who love the same way. It’s not the same as other ways, though love of course is love is love.
And it is useful to be able to name your identity. It is how we find ourselves and each other. - E.B.
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